First there was one and now there are two. The switch from a hormonal pregnant woman to a new mom is quite sudden. It’s nothing you’ve ever experienced before, slightly daunting, somewhat thrilling and a whole lotta frightening. For someone who goes through these varied emotions, any input be it from their friends, relatives or even strangers, specially the ones that make them feel inadequate are considered totally unwarranted. Here are few the new moms absolutely detest.
Read it. Watch it. Listen to it. Share it. Over and over and over again.
It is recommended that a child be bf for a year at least. It is also expected for new moms to breast feed their kids as soon as they pop out of them. It is also presumed that new moms will have ample supply, limitless and endless.
All this is true. It can happen. It does for some but for many it is something they either experience later or never. BUT. They are told day after day how they need to try harder, eat more, drink more, do a lot more. Not understanding that maybe…. Maybe the woman in question is actually not producing enough. What if the pressure of breast-feeding is taking a toll on the woman and she doesn’t want to breast-feed.
I recently had a conversation with a new mom who is a self-proclaimed expert read judgmental as fuck about breastfeeding and how I found it extremely difficult and wouldn’t want to go through it again. I was told how ungrateful I was and how I will never have the bond she has with her child. FML right.
Now I am sure she had her reasons of telling me my bond with my child is entirely dependent on my LO sucking my boobs dry but please let your hypocritical self judge your own shit. To be honest why is it such a big issue if someone finds breast feeding challenging. You have another human being (even if it came from within you) attached to your boobs 24/7. You know you are nothing but a cow for now. You exist only for the child. Can’t even poop when you want to or eat what you want to. HOW CAN ANYONE BE A RAY OF SUNSHINE IS BEYOND MY UNDERSTANDING. But I do feel some can handle it better than others and that’s fantastic. Just don’t tell me you are fanfuckingtastic and I am not.
And to the “BEST MOM IN THE WORLD”. Let live and fuck off
If you are a new mom and all that is happening in your life right now seems too overwhelming and confusing than here are some tips to help you get by:
Tell people who tell you to stop crying to STFU.
Know that this is not going to end anytime soon. It WILL get better. Thora sa. When, you ask? Well it all depends on the little human you’ve created. There is nothing you can do to expedite the process.
Ask your mom to come help you out or GO HOME (some Saaso mas are great, but they can never substitute for your mom. You will feed the need to scream, you will want to shout and we all know we can only do that with our dear old ammis/amma/mama.
Reach out to other new moms; you need the support of those who are going through the same shit. No one understands better than the first mommy clan.
Do not ask, TELL your ‘Majazi Khuda’ what he needs to do. If his services were required to create your lo, he better be available to stay up the night too.